How to Travel With Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Should I go traveling with my boyfriend/girlfriend? Will we spend all our time fighting, or will it draw us closer than we ever have been? These are some common questions asked by people who’re contemplating going traveling with their partner.
In my experience I have seen very few couples traveling together and even less happy couples. Going traveling with your partner is BIG DECISION, as you’ll feel partly responsible for them the whole time (much more than you would a friend).
It should be noted that going traveling with your partner is totally different to going on holiday with them.
Most holidays don’t last longer than two weeks, and you’ll spend most of your time laying on a sunny beach and enjoying the comforts of a nice hotel room. When you’re traveling, however, you’ll spend countless hours lugging your heavy backpacks around, on cramped, uncomfortable bus journeys and in sweaty hostels – meaning that any annoyances or disagreements between the two of you will most likely become magnified.
Many people will advise you to NEVER go traveling long-term with your boyfriend/girlfriend (as you’ll spend more time together than is healthy), but can it work, and if so, how do you make it work?
After talking with some of the (albeit few) happy couples that I’ve met traveling, I’ve come up with a few key points to help make your relationship a travel-friendly one:
First of all, try to give each other space every now and then (just as you would back home).
Just because you’re traveling together doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking minute together. Even the best of friends will become a little sick of each other after months on the road.
If you’re going traveling with someone else, you should know a lot about them beforehand – such as when to give them space, so use this information to good effect.
One of the disadvantages of traveling as a couple is that you won’t have the same desire to go out and meet new people, and when you’re together you’ll appear less approachable to others.
Spending a little time apart and making new friends from time to time should be encouraged, and it’ll give you something interesting to talk about.
This also means that you don’t have to do the same thing as each other every day. If one person wants to go to a museum but the other wants to take a nap, what’s wrong with that?
“Two people can’t travel as cheaply as one, but depending on the destination they can travel as cheaply as one-and-a-half” – Karen Vost
Secondly, consider having a communal travel fund that you both share.
This fund should be created (and budgeted for) before you set off (so you know how much is in there and how much you’ve got to spend roughly each day).
This fund will pay for everything – hostels, food, transportation and entertainment, and will save you from the inevitable ‘I have X left in my budget, you only have X left in your budget’ arguments/conversations..
As one couple I met put it: “Having a communal travel fund enables you to argue about WHERE you want to eat, rather than how much each of you can afford to spend”.
“Traveling with a boyfriend is good as you have someone to fend off creeps and carry your bags, and they’re better to sleep with than mosquitoes.” – Sophie Gorrell Barnes
Traveling with your partner can be incredible fun, as you’ll no doubt see them in ways you never have before, and you’ll get to experience some incredible things together.
The memories that you’ll create together will last a lifetime (even if your relationship doesn’t) and there’s no doubt you’ll really get to know your partner inside out.
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